Life is ever evolving.
Every living creature is constantly adapting and growing. The earth itself is constantly changing, hoping and thriving to form into a more progressed and profound version of itself. From the seasons and animals, to the trees, plants and the sky.
Without change, without flow, without adaptation, there would be no purpose, there would be no excitement, and no difference.
As humans, we also thrive on these same things in order to be. To be in your complete flow of evolution, of change, of growth, is to be in the element of freedom, to be in the state of pure joy and bliss. When you are flowing, just as the earth, flowers, birds and trees are, you are unstoppable, unbeatable even.
To live this way is how to progress, perform and to feel your best… but what do we do when our flow comes to a halt? What do we do when confusion crowds the mind, and blockages stand in our way of moving forward?
Have you been feeling stuck in your life?
Have things been confusing and misleading?
Do you feel that you aren’t making progress?
Whether it be career, relationship, job, family, decision making or overall life changes, it can sometimes feel as though the next step seems so far away, impossible to grab hold of or maybe just down right confusing to decide on.
Studies show 69% of people feel trapped in their lifestyles and only 3 out of 10 people are happy with their lives.
These feelings of being stuck, stagnant, or feeling blocked, can also lead to further emotions of stress and anger and on a more serious note, can lead to depression and other mental illnesses, which can then cause ripple effects throughout life.
I myself have suffered many times with these feelings of being stuck and blocked. Whether it be energetically in my body, physically in my surroundings or the common occurrence I’m sure a lot of you have felt- not knowing what to do next. I even have moments of feeling stuck and confused with navigating relationships and/or friendships that don’t feel progressively healthy or positively influential anymore.
I would experience what felt like imposter syndrome tied in with these moments of feeling stuck. All because I had an idea of what I wanted for myself, but I had no idea how to get it.
Who was I to think I deserved the most miraculous life? Who was I to think I could have my dream partner? What would I do when I got my dream job, and how on earth would I even make it happen?
So, how did I deal with these thoughts? How did I overcome these feelings of being stuck and feeling like I wasn’t progressing?
Bury myself. Numb myself. Settle.
My first go-to when feeling stuck in any way, was ALWAYS work. Work my ass off. Work my ass off and save. Work my ass off and save and save and save. In doing this, I felt that one day I would save enough money to be closer to achieving what I wanted, which overall was always success. If success wasn’t my first priority at that moment, I could escape with the money instead by travelling and by spending my money on things I didn’t need which gave me momentary bliss.
Money was my saviour and security. Money made me feel unstuck. It brought me my idea of safety. Growing up with not much of it, and finding a job that sucked the soul out of me but paid me well felt perfect for a long time. What I didn’t realise until these last couple of years, was that my job and the income I made was feeding into my emotional patterns and cycles of being stuck, causing me to be codependent on money.
I thought having money was enough to succeed and to achieve the future I wanted…
Until it wasn’t.
I had the money. I travelled. I had nice things and experienced life in different ways through financial gain.
And yet, I still felt overwhelmingly STUCK!
Up until a year ago, I always had the same idea. If I had money I’d be secure and safe.
But now, I have a new goal, and this is where this blog is going to take a bit of a twist.
The moment I started to allow myself to simply sit with the uncomfortable idea of not knowing what my next step should be, is when I began to really find my flow.
I fell slowly in love with the idea of being okay with being stuck. I fell in love with the idea of not having it all figured out.
Of course this isn’t something you want to feel forever… and you won’t.
There is balance in unknowingness. There is harmony in unsteadiness. You just have to open yourself up to finding it and allow yourself to see it.
I invite you to allow yourself to be open to the idea of not knowing what comes next. To not have a plan. It isn’t a bad thing to feel stumped for an amount of time. To take a break from decision making.
As humans we are conditioned to believe that we have to know our next move in order to survive and thrive. We must have a plan in order to see the future. Which of course makes sense. Having a set schedule is important. Having a plan is important. But when you are so dependent on the idea of your set plan working, that’s when things — I believe — can get messy.
So back to my first paragraph of finding flow like the earth itself. Flow without restraint, flow without pressure, flow with ease and gratitude.
We need to incorporate our femininity, which is our free flowing open minded state to balance out the masculinity of planning.
If you are here because you want someone to tell you how to make sense of your future, I softly encourage you to stop looking for a second, and just be. Look within and find yourself first.
Finding your next step, your goals, your dreams, all lie within finding yourself.
I can only hope that when you do your tarot card reading with the tarot card spread below, you are trusting the universe and the divinity itself to bring you some answers or hidden information you might have been missing or ignoring.
I hope this tarot card spread encourages you to see that you are the answer you’re looking for and that your next step might be a lot more simple than you think.
Allow The Moon to open up your idea of the next steps you should take.
Allow The King Of Cups to find strength and balance in unsteadiness.
Tarot card readings and spreads are here to guide and open your eyes up to new opportunities and new meanings of these feelings.
The minor arcana cards and major arcana cards are here to help you see what you may not, to open your mind up to new sights and visions.
Slow down, allow yourself to be open to the idea that being stuck isn’t always such a bad thing. It’s okay to be still, to not be working constantly towards something. Enjoy the nothingness, the confusion, the fear. It’s a part of our lives and our overall adventure on this planet.
FREE TAROT SPREAD
Pick as many options below that relate to you out of these common occurrences that can cause feelings of being stuck, stagnant or blocked-
Relationships, friendships, family, money, work/career, spirituality, mental health
And ask these 3 questions to the Tarot for each
Where you’re at now with ….
Suggested next steps and actions for ….
Outcome if any changes are made to …..
JOURNALING QUESTIONS FOR FEELING STUCK-
What is making you feel stuck with your decision making precisely?
Is difficulty making decisions a pattern for you? Why do you think this is or isnt?
When you feel stuck, what does it feel like in your body?
What are some regular occurring thought patterns that happen when you feel stuck?
Is there something minor you can change in your life to help with these feelings of being stuck?
What would your life look like if you allowed yourself to let go of the idea of what you think your life should look like, and you just simply allowed yourself to be?
Don’t forget to love yourself, and put yourself first always when making decisions about you and your life. You deserve to feel free. You deserve to flow with ease, like the earth itself.
Understand my “Situationship”
Lovie Gracie
Teacher, Healer, Writer, Eternal student
April 20, 2024
I want to say we’ve all been here but perhaps there is the one lucky person who is reading this blog who has never heard of or experienced a situationship.
Hats off to you my friend…
Relationships are hard.
Being single is hard.
“Situationships” are the epitome of hard.
The dating world as I’ve known it has never been easy, and while I could sit here and explain why this is for me, I don’t think we need to go into my daddy issues causing my dating reality.
That’s for another blog…
Situationships can come in all shapes and sizes. Whether you are all for them and one day they want you and the next they don’t, or whether you are seeing someone but unsure if you’re the only one. Perhaps they’re even playing the game of ‘I don’t want a relationship’ but treating it like you’re in a relationship and you don’t understand why you can’t just put the label on it.
Casual dating but seeing other people. Friends with benefits. F*ck buddies. Any sort of connection with the attracted sex that doesn’t have the label of a relationship but makes you feel a certain way, making you second guess or want to form a relationship.
I wish there was an easy way to navigate through a situationship, or a simple answer I could give you. But unfortunately, there isn’t an easy way out of a situationship, just as it doesn’t feel easy when you’re in it.
It can open up and trigger a lot of wounds within us- all of the emotions that lie within a situationship, and I hate to say it but…
If you find yourself in one of these kind of relationships, there is a reason for it. A deeper underlying reason that stems back to our self worth and self love.
We are constantly repeating patterns from childhood with our parents.
To get straight to what I mean, and going into these daddy issues I said I wasn’t going to speak about- (I’ve realised I can’t do a post about difficult relationships without bringing up why we seek and fall into them in the first place)
Here’s a bit about me and my reasoning for the shituationships I’ve ended up in (yes I added the shit, because mine cannot be described as just situations).
My father was never present. He was there and he was present in a physical form sense, he showed his face and made a slight comment here and there, but he never emotionally gave his presence. I didn’t receive the necessary emotions from my father that I needed to develop into a strong independent woman who knew her worth. I now, when searching for love, find myself more attracted and involved with men who have no interest in dating me. It’s a challenge for me to push them into loving me because through every relationship, I am projecting the issues of my father not giving me the love I needed, and through these relationships I seek, I am attempting to seek this love I wish my father gave me. I want these men to push for me just as I wish my father had, and would.
We are constantly repeating the patterns from our parents in some way shape or form.
If you have found yourself here on this blog looking up this spread, then I invite you to take a look back, trace it back, figure out why on earth you are in a situation like this in the first place. You aren’t just unlucky. You don’t just have a bad history with dating. You aren’t not good enough to have a secure and healthy relationship.
So you’ve found yourself in a situationship. Perhaps it’s purely physical, or perhaps there’s a deep emotional connection. Maybe it begins with drunk (or sober) booty calls, or maybe one of you is completely terrified of committing because of past hurt. Maybe you’re like me, someone who is just too blind to see that this person will never give to you what your father couldn’t. No matter the reason, you’re finding yourself in a position where you aren’t finding full commitment.
There are so many factors that can come into play. There are many things you can do to help yourself in a situationship, even if it feels like the only way is to continue till it explodes, which 9/10 times it most likely will (sorry).
You may even be the lucky one who can push till it forms a relationship, like I have done in the past. I have forced partners to be with me, and played the game of ‘commit to me or I’m leaving’, which has resulted in commitment for a little while, but the reality with situationships is if it wasn’t easy to begin with, it probably won’t mould into the relationship you are after.
You should be with someone who from the beginning makes it simple, clear and easy. Not someone who challenges your perception of yourself and clouds your idea of healthy connection.
It can be hard to let go of a situationship and recover from it.
It is still a connection that is formed. There is still love there, even if it feels one sided, confusing, unhealthy or un-evolving…
You have still shared a connection with someone.
My first bit of advice;
Reflect and try to figure out why you are wanting this person so badly.
You can journal, meditate on, or simply ask yourself these questions-
Why is it that you have found yourself in this situationship?
Is there a pattern that has been fallen into?
When have you felt like this before- feelings of not being good enough, or not being worthy, or not having enough to give?
FREE TAROT SPREAD
1- What you think about them
2- How they perceive the connection
2- How they think about you
4- Their current need for connection
5- Their obstacles within this connection
6- Outcome of overall connection
I’ve also added a shadow work worksheet
To give you access to diving a little deeper into the understanding of why you may be in this situationship in the first place
Situationships Shadow Worksheet
Don’t forget that you are the decider of the level of respect you allow throughout life.
You decide the love you wish to endure and become accustomed to.
By understanding yourself on a deeper level, you can find the meaning behind the situations you end up in.
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From my heart, to yours, lots of love
Love Lovie x
(Teacher, Healer, Writer, Eternal student)
